wew, yang ada di bawah ini adalah kerjaan saya pada saat kelas tiga sma untuk menghadapi tes akhir agar lulus dari sebuah course english. topic yang saya ambil sangat kontroversial. saya ingat apa yang dibilang guru saya bahwa untuk hal presentasi argumentatif seperti ini saya harus berani mengambil topic kontroversial biarpun saya sendiri sebenarnya tidak suka dengan topic ini. beliau bilang, "Disitulah tantangannya!" so, this is it !

HOMOSEXUALITY,

WHY NOT?

Created by:

Malasari

High Intermediate 4

LBPP LIA Cirebon

Outline

♠ Pro’s

1. Marriage is not always for getting child

2. Gay and lesbian parenting support from medical experts

3. Homosexuality is humanity (as biological one)

4. Freedom for homosexuality

♠ Con’s

1. Religion’s way

2. Myth about homosexuality

♠ Thesis Statement

Although homosexuality is abnormal, it should be legalized to show humanity and freedom.

Organization

Body Paragraphs

A. Topic Sentence: Most people still have an opinion that homosexuality is abnormal and immoral practices.

• Religion in the world considers homosexuality unacceptable

• Homosexuality an abnormal and unhealthy form of human relationship

B. Topic Sentence: People might have feared or hated homosexuals because of some of the myths they hear about.

• One example of homosexuality myths

B. Topic Sentence: As you can see, the practice of homosexuality has not always been stigmatized but rather, has been widely accepted in many cultures as a normal part of life.

• The existence of homosexuality practices

• Examples of homosexuals

C. Topic Sentence: Indeed, one study found that the only difference between such couples was that lesbian couples exhibit more awareness of parenting skills than do heterosexual couples.

• The meaning of marriage

• Parenting skills of homosexuals

D. Topic Sentence: For too long homosexuality has been considered a form of "deviant sexual behavior".

• Biological causation of homosexuality

E. Topic Sentence: Sexual orientation should have no bearing on a person's status as a citizen with civil rights in the political community.

•Civil rights

•Human society

F. Refutation: After knowing several reasons above, it can be said that homosexuality should be accept, have it own right, and the homosexuals should treated the same.

Homosexuality is not a crime. It is very much within the human nature. It is subjective. It is a right to ones own sexuality. It is a democratic demand. Homosexuality tends to get more attention because it should be a matter of basic civil and equal rights. Though gays are the minority of our society, their rights should be protected by law. That's one of the reasons why we have all the laws! Some people say that we don't have to legalize homosexual marriage. However, why not? They may make some people frown, but that can't be the reason. The marriage is for lovers. If they love each other, they should be allowed to have a family of their own. Even if gay marriage were harmful, the equality and dignity of gay couples should be respected. There are good reasons to think that legalized gay marriage would benefit us all. Legalizing gay marriage will not rock the stability of this country or the morality of its citizens. Although homosexuality is abnormal, it should be legalized to show humanity and freedom.

Virtually every religion in the world, including the major ones in this country, considers homosexuality unacceptable. Some people who consider homosexuality an abnormal and unhealthy form of human relationship should, nonetheless, work to uphold the civil rights of all citizens, including those who practice homosexuality, just as they would uphold the civil rights of practicing heterosexuals who violate their marriage bonds or engage in premarital heterosexuality. Most people still have an opinion that homosexuality is abnormal and immoral practices.

People might have feared or hated homosexuals because of some of the myths they hear about. There are myths about how homosexuality is deviance and how homosexuals introduce HIV/AIDS to society. From these myths people began to develop homophobia and a lot of them have physically and verbally abused homosexuals.

The practice of homosexuality is not one that has recently developed, but rather, it has been around since the ancient cultures of Greece and Rome. Although the term homosexuality did not exist until 1869, the practice of it in ancient cultures was considered be to a normal part of life. Many famous Greek philosophers of the time had male partners as well as their wives. Such men were Plato, Socrates, and Aristotle. It was common practice for a male to take on a young boy as his lover until he reached maturity where he would, in turn, take on another young boy as his lover. In Roman society, the emperor himself married his male lover.

Likewise, some Native-Americans in North America chose the "Berdache" lifestyle where men dressed as women and dated other men and women dressed as men and dated other women. This practice was less stigmatized because these couples had the appearance of heterosexuality. In many cultures in New Guinea and Africa, it was common practice for men to inseminate young boys at puberty so they could become men in their sexuality. As you can see, the practice of homosexuality has not always been stigmatized but rather, has been widely accepted in many cultures as a normal part of life.

It is true that the meaning of marriage has been questioned among the years. At first, marriage may have been the commitment between a man and a woman. With the advancements of the world, society is going to change. The changing is that a marriage can be a union of two men or two women. First, look at the definition of marriage. If we look at a dictionary we will notice that there are several definitions for the word marriage. In essence a marriage is a contract between one person and another person. It is a union of two people or two items. Since a marriage is commitment between two people, then a homosexual marriage should be accounted for. We also have to look at the essence of a marriage. Marriages consist of love, commitment, attachment, understanding, and affection. Homosexual relationships consist of these things. So why deny two people who love each other the opportunity to make their commitment legal and receive the legal benefits of marriage? Moreover, that a male and female marriage is not the only place that a child can be raised. A child needs love, understanding, affection, and ability to express themselves, the ability to learn about society and how to deal the world around them in a healthy way. A child receives the things that are needed to grow into a healthy adult. The child simple does not have the gender stigmas that a heterosexual relationship produces. Additional evidence shows that children raised by gay men may even have some advantages over children raised by heterosexual men. Gay men are often especially concerned about being good and nurturing fathers and they try hard to raise their children with nonsexist, egalitarian attitudes. Children of lesbian couples and heterosexual couples are equally adjusted behaviorally, show equivalent cognitive development, and have similar behaviors in school. Studies tracking the long-term progress of children of lesbian mothers have revealed no significant differences between them and children of heterosexual mothers along any of the following key developmental dimensions:

· Gender development: children of lesbian parents are no more likely to have confused or unconventional gender identity or behavior, or to have gay or lesbian sexual orientation.

· Self-esteem and emotional wellbeing: the behavior, intelligence, psychiatric and emotional condition of children of lesbian parents is within the normal range.

· Social development: children of lesbian parents are within the normal range of confidence, and have positive peer relationships.

They are no more likely to be teased or bullied than children of heterosexual mothers. These longitudinal studies report on children of lesbian mothers separated from previous heterosexual relationships. There are fewer studies on children raised from infancy in lesbian parent families. Such studies nevertheless corroborate the findings of the longitudinal studies. Some studies, however, do report that some children of lesbian parents exhibit some of the following developmental differences:

· Are more willing to consider homosexuality as an option (even if not pursue it)

· Are characterized as more affectionate and responsive, and report a greater sense of well-being and contentment about themselves

· Fear stigmatization, have a more negative reaction to stress, and remember teasing more.

· Perceive themselves as less intellectually and physically competent than children from father-parent families.

Indeed, one study found that the only difference between such couples was that lesbian couples exhibit more awareness of parenting skills than do heterosexual couples.

An overwhelming amount of research has been done showing that homosexuality has a biological cause- not a genetic one, but a biological one. The easiest way to think of it is as a hormonal switch that gets thrown one way or the other. Not always, but many times, secondary sexual characteristics resemble the opposite sex. In other words, homosexual males often have softer voices. Lesbians may have strong cheekbones and a more masculine body shape. Those hormone switches affect it all.

Sexual orientation should have no bearing on a person's status as a citizen with civil rights in the political community. Civil rights include the right to life, property, religious freedom, free speech, freedom of association, access to a fair trial, participation in political and legal processes, and equal treatment under the law. When the civil rights of citizens are threatened because of their sexual orientation, it may be appropriate for government to provide special protection against such discriminatory treatment. Human society includes various forms of friendship and relationships, some of which involve enduring commitments. There is no reason to single out homosexual relationships for extra public-legal recognition or benefit. The uniform protection of civil rights assures all citizens, regardless of their sexual orientation, of the right to form associations for legal, educational, financial, religious, and other purposes. In addition to recognizing the civil rights of individuals, public law should also recognize the rights of certain institutions and organizations – such as marriage, family, church, university, and corporation.

After knowing several reasons above, it can be said that homosexuality should be accepted, have it own right, and the homosexuals should treated the same. Homosexuality will show you life in different way and let you understood with words “Live and Let Live”.

In brief, homosexuality should be legalized and be able to marry and have the same rights as heterosexual couples. You have to have the same look to the homosexual as your look to the heterosexual. You will have to accept every one because if your own sister or brother or any other family member or even your best friend was gay or lesbian, you wouldn’t disown them right? So, treat everyone in a same ways and don’t bother his or her life.

Ganteng Ganteng Kok Norak…

Rentetan buku di perpustakaan menjadi pandangan yang cukup akrab untuk seorang mahasiswi Ekonomi Manajemen Universitas Islam Indonesia Yogyakarta yang akhir – akhir ini selalu menyibukkan dirinya di tempat tersebut untuk mencari buku referensi sebagai bahan skripsinya. Hari itu Mandy dan teman seangkatannya, Ana, sedang sibuk mencari buku yang memang sulit untuk mendapatkannya karena buku itu merupakan buku yang laris dipinjam anak – anak jurusan Ekonomi Manajemen.

“Duuh.. harus cari buku itu dimana lagi sih Na?” keluh Mandy.

“Ya sabar dong Dy.. Coba aja tanya ke petugasnya.” Ana memberi saran.

Ana mandekati meja penjaga yang terletak tepat di sebelah pintu masuk, dan disitu duduk seorang lelaki berparas cukup tampan, putih, dan berkacamata yang sedari tadi sibuk dengan pekerjaannya.

“Mas, mau tanya kalo buku ‘Teori Ekonomi’ karangan Hanoch Mc Cartny ada gak?” tanya Mandy.

“Oh..! Sebentar saya bantu carikan.” jawab lelaki penjaga itu dengan ramah.

Ana yang lebih sering mengunjungi perpustakaan dan lebih mengenal penjaga perpus yang biasa dipanggil Mas Arby oleh para mahasiswa tersebut melalui cerita – cerita dari orang lain, merasa heran dan langsung menggerutu di belakang Arby.

“Eh, Dy! Tumben banget tuh Mas Arby mau bantuin mahasiswa yang lagi kesusahan nyari buku. Biasanya kan kalo kita minta bantuan dia, malah dicuekin. Gak kaya biasanya deh!”

Memang aneh. Karena Arby dikenal sebagai sosok yang dingin, tidak ramah, dan jarang sekali terlihat bersama - sama dengan teman – teman seangkatannya., bahkan mungkin dia tidak mempunyai teman apalagi teman perempuan. Mandy yang tidak menyadari keanehan hal itu menanggapi omongan Ana dengan sambil lalu.

“Habis dapet duit kali. Jadi bawaannya seneng mulu! Hi..hi..”

Namun anehnya, perubahan yang terjadi pada Arby itu hanya dirasakan oleh mereka berdua terutama Mandy. Setiap Mandy berkunjung ke perpus, Arby selalu dengan ramah menyapanya dan membantu mencarikan buku yang Mandy perlukan. Bahkan, terkadang juga membantu Mandy menyelesaikan skripsinya, karena Arby juga seorang asisten dosen di fakultas yang sama. Dan tidak hanya itu, Arby pun sudah mulai melakukan pendekatan, seperti menelepon Mandy dengan rutin kaya minum obat tiga kali sehari dan masih banyak lagi tanpa memperdulikan bahwa Mandy sudah memiliki kekasih bernama Fedi yang tinggal di luar kota.

Awalnya, Mandy menganggap bahwa semua yang dilakukan Arby hanya usahanya untuk dapat berteman dengannya. Namun, makin lama Arby makin agresif. Arby mulai mengajak Mandy kencan. Seperti yang terjadi pada malam ini. Mandy menerima ajakan Arby dengan terpaksa sebagai ucapan terima kasih karena selama ini telah membantunya dalam mengerjakan tugas kuliah dan skripsinya.

“Malam Bu, ada Mandy?” tanya Arby pada ibu kost yang membukakan pintu.

“Oh, nak Mandy? Ada kok! Sebentar ya..”jawab ibu kost sambil dengan seksama memperhatikan pemuda yang berdiri di depannya itu dari ujung kaki sampai ujung kepala.

Malam ini, Arby memakai pakaian yang sangat mengundang perhatian anak - anak satu kost, terlebih Mandy. Arby datang dengan dandanan rambut klimis belah pinggir, celana panjang hitam sedikit cut bray, dan yang lebih mengejutkan lagi dia mengenakan baju batik Yogya yang biasa dipakai para anggota DPR jika sedang dinas, ditambah lagi wangi parfum melati yang cukup membuat Mandy hampir muntah karenanya.

Mandy yang sudah berdandan cantik layaknya kalau dia pergi kencan dengan Fedi, langsung terkejut melihat cowok dengan dandanan seperti bapak – bapak yang sedang duduk di kursi ruang tamu dan sekarang sedang tersenyum padanya. Di benak Mandy langsung tersirat niat untuk membatalkan rencananya pergi malam itu, karena ‘apa kata orang kalo ngeliat Mandy yang cantik jalan sama orang kaya gitu??’ nanti dikiranya Mandy demen sama om – om lagi! Tapi, akhirnya Mandy mengurungkan niat tersebut semata – mata karena tidak tega.

“Halo.. Kamu cantik banget..” sapa Arby sangat kaku. Mungkin karena sebelumnya dia tidak pernah berkencan apalagi memuji perempuan seperti barusan.

“Kamu kok dandanannya santai banget?” tanya Arby kepada Mandy yang saat itu hanya mengenakan jins dan blus pink.

“Tapi nggak apa deh..” lanjut Arby.

Mandy selalu menanggapi omongan Arby dengan dingin yang maksudnya agar Arby tahu bahwa Mandy sangat terganggu dengan dandanannya. Mereka berangkat dengan motor dan sesampainya di tempat tujuan…

“Lho..! Kok kita berhenti disini?” tanya Mandy sambil melihat keadaan sekelilingnya yang ramai dan terlihat di kejauhan panggung organ tunggal yang diisi dengan nyanyian campur sari.

“Oh! Iya..! Aku lupa ngasih tahu kamu, kalo sebenarnya malam ini aku mau ngajak kamu buat nemenin aku ke hajatan dosenku..” jawab Arby.

Mendengar itu, Mandy kaget setengah mati dan langsung terpaku di hadapan meja pager ayu.

“Kok kamu malah diem disitu?” tegur Arby.

“Kok kamu ngajak aku kesini sih? Bukannya kita mau jalan – jalan?” tanya Mandy.

“Jalan – jalan? Ngapain? Buang – buang duit aja. Mendingan kita kesini kan bisa makan gratis..!” timbal Arby.

Mandy sangat kaget mendengar jawaban Arby. Memang, Arby adalah orang yang sangat hemat. Ia jarang sekali terlihat di kantin. Tapi, kalo mau makan aja kudu ke kondangan sih namanya udah pelit. Mandy terpaksa masuk dan ikut makan di sebelah Arby karena perutnya sudah dangdutan dari tadi. Setelah makan mereka tidak langsung pulang melainkan Mandy harus dibuat kesal dengan menghilangnya Arby saat mereka mengucapkan selamat pada pengantin dan betapa terkejutnya Mandy saat melihat Arby sedang berjoget mengikuti irama campur sari di atas panggung. Baru Mandy sadari ternyata Arby bukan hanya pelit tapi juga norak!!

“Ih... nyebelin banget!! Nggak lagi deh jalan sama dia!!” gerutu Mandy. Dan ia terpaksa menunggu sampai Arby puas berjoget. Dan setelah Arby turun dari panggung, Mandy langsung pasang muka jutek dan sayangnya Arby tidak menyadarinya. Dan saat di parkiran motor…

“Lho kok motornya nggak dinyalain?” tanya Mandy.

“Kita pulang jalan kaki aja ya.. soalnya biar hemat. Kan bensin sekarang mahal.” jawab Arby yang membuat kekesalan Mandy memuncak.

‘Gila aja!! Tempat kondangan ama kost kan jauh banget!!’ gerutu Mandy dalam hati. Dan tanpa pikir panjang, Mandy langsung kabur dari hadapan Arby dan langsung menghadang angkutan umum yang melintas di depannya tanpa memperdulikan Arby yang berusaha mengejar di belakangnya.

Mandy langsung berniat untuk melupakan kejadian malam ini dan sekaligus melupakan cowok yang udah bikin tensi darahnya naik. Keesokan harinya, Arby mendatangi kost Mandy.

Ketukan pintu Arby membuat Mandy terbangun. Saat itu jam 10 pagi dan Mandy tidak ada jadwal kuliah pagi. Ketukan Arby semakin keras ketika dia melihat Mandy yang masih tertidur. Dan sesaat kemudian, Mandy terbangun karenanya. Melihat Mandy terbangun, ketakutan Arby terhadap perempuan itu seketika muncul kembali dan menimbulkan inisiatif di kepalanya untuk bersembunyi di balik sofa yang ada tepat di depan kamar Mandy dan tidak menemui Mandy. Dari balik sofa, Arby mengintai Mandy yang sedang kebingungan mencari makhluk yang telah mengganggu mimpi indahnya.

“Duuh.. siapa sih yang ngetok pintu??” ucap Mandy sendiri.

Setelah dia yakin tidak ada siapapun disana, Mandy memutuskan untuk masuk ke dalam kamarnya kembali.

“Dy.. buka pintu! Aku mau minta maaf soal tadi malem. Please bukain..” pinta Arby.

“Oh, God!! Dia lagi!” ucap Mandy di dalam kamarnya.

Muncul sebuah ide di otak Mandy. Dia bergegas meraih handphone dan mengirim pesan kepada teman sebelah kamarnya.

Sent to: 085224232xxx

Mba, tolong bilangin ke cowo di depan kamar aku, aku gak ada. Thank’s..

“Mas, Mandy nya lagi kuliah tuh..” ucap teman sebelah kamar Mandy.

“Enggak kok mba! Mandy ada. Tadi saya liat dia buka pintu.” jawab Arby polos. “Tapi saya ngumpet!”

“Ya udah salah sendiri!”

Arby akhirnya memutuskan untuk menulis surat yang ia selipkan melalui celah bawah pintu kamar Mandy. Tanpa membacanya dulu, Mandy mengembalikan surat itu keluar. Arby akhirnya menyerah dan pulang.

Hari – hari berikutnya, Mandy tidak pernah datang lagi ke perpus. Arby di lain pihak, masih mencoba untuk menghubungi Mandy. Namun, tak pernah dapat tanggapan dari Mandy. Hingga akhirnya di siang bolong seperti ini, Arby nekat bertindak.

Di kantin kampus, Arby berdiri diatas kursi sambil membawa toa.

“Mandyyyyyyyyy, saya tahu kamu bias denger saya dari sini. Saya minta maaf Mandyyyyyy!!!!” Arby teriak.

Semua mahasiswa yang berjarak 500 meter dari tempat Arby berada kontan langsung lari ke kantin karena penasaran dengan apa yang sebenarnya terjadi. Dan Arbby benar, Mandy memang ada di dekat situ.

“Mandyyy, saya mohon maafkan saya. Saya tidak akan berhenti melakukan hal ini kalo kamu ndak kesini dan bilang kalo kamu maapin saya.”

Di tempat lain Mandy bergumam, “Bodo amat, lo yang malu bukan gue. Grrrrr, ganteng – ganteng kok norak.”

Fin.